Everything We’ve Got

I picked up our boys’ Ugandan passports just a few days ago.

To have these documents, with our boys’ photos in them, with their names ending with GUENTHER, meant so much to me that I held back tears as I thanked the man who handed them to me.

I still cannot believe that we made it to this point.

It took everything we had to make it this far. I am not sure I will ever find the words that will truly describe the stress, sacrifice, pain and trauma that has defined this entire process for us.

That is how I think about the process. As for our family, it is wildly different. Within the walls of our home, love and attachment grew naturally. Becoming Oliver and Finn’s “Daddy” was the easiest, and the best thing about it all, only bested by seeing my amazing wife become an amazing “Mummy!”

Obtaining the paperwork, the legal orders, the passports, that all would acknowledge this love? It felt impossible, right up until the moment when it wasn’t.

But it took everything we had.

Today, I sent in our applications for Canadian Citizenship for Oliver and Finn. We should have been excited, but we are afraid.

Immediately after July 14th, we began preparing our applications for the boys. It is a complicated, opaque process, that we ultimately have no control over.

We have already been told that we cannot apply for visitor visas for our sons. They will be denied. We had no idea that this avenue would be closed to us, and the news was shocking. The only path for our boys to come to Canada, is citizenship.

The truth is our boys are NOT Canadian. So they do not have rights, even though they are legally our children. They cannot access consular services, they cannot submit enquiries, there is no obligation for any government employee to provide them with any services, regardless of their status as the legal children of Canadian citizens.

There is a part of me that feels this is not just or fair, but I also understand there are rules and regulations that guide these processes. The truth is, that these rules and regulations can have dramatic impacts on families like ours.

We have been given no timeline. No expectations. Granting our boys Canadian citizenship is NOT guaranteed. If our applications are successful, we have no idea when they will be granted. 3 weeks from today? 12 months? No one can tell us what to expect. It’s literally against their rules.

So we need your prayer, and your support. I have not touched Canadian soil for 3 years. Nadine has not given her mom a hug since April 2018. We have three nephews we’ve never been able to meet. Almost every one of our friends and family have not been able to meet our boys.

We know that COVID-19 has changed everything, and of course this will impact our situation as well, but we need to be home. We need to find some rest. We need our sons to meet their family.

We remain committed to our work in Uganda, and so we hope that as we move forward, we will be able to make it home to Canada in time for Christmas, and then return to our other home here in Kampala to continue this amazing adventure we find ourselves in the midst of. Make no mistake – we love our lives in this incredible country.

If you feel like you want to help, then ask us how! We honestly don’t know! A simple side effect of never having to apply for Canadian Citizenship before, right?

We do know that we need your prayers for this to be successful!

Pray for the safety and security of our boys’ applications as they are shipped to Dar es Salaam. May they arrive safely and quickly.

Pray for the officials who will receive our documents. May they be compassionate, and efficient.

Pray for consular staff, who are our only Canadian resource here in East Africa. May they be motived  to see this process come to a quick conclusion.

Pray for our family back in Canada. May years of prayer and waiting, be answered.

Pray for us. Insomnia, poor health, stress, illness, we have experienced it all. There’s a lot we do share here, and there’s a lot more that we don’t. We need a season of renewal, and we need it to come swiftly.

So yes, we’ve given this everything we’ve got. It’s not enough. We need help.

Lots of love. We will keep you updated!


Oliver: Hooray for Passports!       Finn: Now where is the airplane?


9 thoughts on “Everything We’ve Got

  1. Oh man… My heart goes out to you guys. I just prayed for you guys – for strength, for peace, that God POWERFULLY work, for real and felt and known renewal. May Jesus do His work in your lives today.

    Blessings to you all!

    Jon Putz Southeast Site Pastor CENTRAL Following Jesus Together 780.466.7461 followingtogether.com

    Remember Jesus’ words: Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27


  2. WOW!  What a story of patience and love……..thanks so much for continuing to share with me.

    We’ll be praying for all of you.  This is such a cool pic with your boys and their passports (more so your last post about the judge’s decision was just so so so amazingly good cheer).

    Keep well and hope to see you on N American soil soon!!


    josh & nadine in Africa wrote on 8/10/20 14:40: > WordPress.com > Josh & Nadine posted: “I picked up our boys’ Ugandan passports just a > few days ago. To have these documents, with our boys’ photos in them, > with their names ending with GUENTHER, meant so much to me that I held > back tears as I thanked the man who handed them to me. I still ca” >

  3. Nadine and family,

    My heart aches reading this post. I’ll be praying specifically for you that may have renewed strength and patience as you await the news. I’m committing to pray every morning at 9:00 for you guys.

  4. A great celebration that Finn and Oliver have passports but I feel the pain and the longing to be able to visit Canada as a family, to be part of your Canadian family, the pride of being able to introduce your sons to your family and friends. But God is able and I pray that He will work miracles for you.

  5. We will be praying for the four of you! May God give you His peace that passes understanding as you wait on Him in this. ❤️❤️❤️

  6. Not sure how I stumbled onto your site, but I have been following your story. Thank you for sharing. Praying for you here in Cincinnati, Ohio.

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